Recently, I have become a huge battle rap fan. So, I have coerced myself into the culture
hard. I mean, that’s all I watch when
I’m on YouTube. Whether it be
interviews, blogs, battles or anything that involves battle rap. I’m into it.
Well just the other day, I was watching this blog by this battle rapper
named Aye Verb with his homie Chase. The
title of the blog was “How To Keep Yo Man” and I must say I was entertained by
it. Now the stuff they were saying in
the video, I don’t agree with for the most part and I’m sure most who actually
read this blog won’t either. But I can
say that it inspired me to write this blog.
I think it’s a really cool subject that needs to addressed. Women always complain about not knowing what
men want, and for the most part it may be true.
I have my own theory. I think
women know what men want but they don’t want to give them that because it may
take attention away from them. But
that’s a different subject for a different day.
But I will attempt to tell you what a man expects from a relationship
and what will make him happy. Take notes
because this is some good advice you’re about to get.
Keep It Simple
Men are some of the simplest creatures God ever
made. We know this and we’re okay with
this. It’s only a problem when women
make it a problem. As dudes, we have our
core of things that genuinely brings excitement into our lives. Whether it be specific sports, music,
adventurous stuff, or hobbies, we stick to that core. So I’m going to tell you this. It’s not hard to please us if you stick to
the core and it’s not hard to identify the core of a dude’s interest. It’s the thing that he gets excited about the
most. It will show. Now women can complicate a dude’s core
interest by either not caring about it or caring about it too much. Let me give you an example. I’m a huge sports fan. That’s my core. Now a girl can mess up my core by doing the following. Either she doesn't care about my core and for
Christmas decides to buy me the first sports related thing she sees or she can
care too much and buy me something featuring a popular team I don’t too much
care for. Moral of the story, keep it
simple. In my situation, just ask me
what my favorite teams are or take notice of the games I like to watch. And that’s for dudes with other
interest. Ask them simple questions like
what’s your favorite and why. It’s not
hard to get the necessary information.
Shut Up Sometimes
I know the title seems harsh but it has to be said this
way for you to get the picture. The
truth hurts sometimes. Dudes get
irritated by a girl who talks too much.
We put up with it, but a lot of the times we are not trying to hear what
you are talking about. Have you ever
heard the phrase, go in one ear and come out the other? Well that is what happens when a dude has to
listen to a girl talk about stuff that’s just not interesting to him. And you can tell when a dude is not interested
in what you have to say when he gives you short transitional phrases that keep
the conversation going. For example,
What?, Forreal?, Word?, Naw Now, You Lying, and so on. I’m not telling you to go mute on the guy,
but try to keep it at a minimum. There’s
a great divide between men and women when it comes to communication and I will
say that it’s both parties’ fault. Women
want men to talk more and men want women to talk less. There needs to be a compromise. Women, if you want your dude to talk more then
you have to talk less so he can say what you want him to say. Two people talking at the same time is noise
and not a conversation. Proverbs is
filled with scriptures that condemn people for talking too much. Proverbs 10:19, Proverbs 17:28, Proverbs
21:23 are just a few. So what I’m saying
is pretty valid for those who want to challenge it.
Stop Believing What Your Friend Girl Tells You About Men
I think this is pretty much self-explanatory. Your friend girl does not know what a man is
thinking most of the time. She’s just
going to rely on her emotions and tell you irrational information. Of course she’s going to ride for you, so you
might not be getting correct information.
I say, unless she has concrete evidence to support her claim, then don’t
believe her. Matter of fact, you will do
better by believing the opposite of what she says. It’s easy to tell if you should believe
her. If you ask her what your man thinks
and she gives you one answer then you shouldn't believe her. I say that because most dudes are different
and she’s only going off of past experiences.
And unless yall dated the same dude, she going to go off her past
relationship and use that dude as an example, instead of just thinking rational
in the first place. That’s why when I
tell girls how dudes are thinking, I try to give them multiple scenarios
because truthfully, I don’t know what he’s thinking and I’m a man. Just ask your dude what he’s thinking. Eventually he will tell you so you can stop
speculating. And if he doesn't then you
all might not be meant for each other.
Say How You Feel The First Time
This one is real important to me. Dudes are not psychics, so stop expecting
your dude to be one. Women set
themselves up for failure. And to be
honest, some men do to. When a dude asks
you how you feeling, if you are not feeling alright then tell us. After we make sure that you say you’re
alright, we are going to leave it alone.
Don’t expect us to read your mind and predict what’s wrong with you and
don’t expect us to try to fight it out of you because we are not going to do
that. I know you expect us to, but let’s
be real. You don’t trust us enough to
tell us the first time, so why should we continue to try? Save yourself the grief and just tell us when
we first ask. It’s not a fun game when
you don’t say how you feel in the first place.
I’ve played that game before. It didn't work out for me. So I’m speaking
from experience. Just go on and let your
frustrations out. It’s better that way
because if you let it build up then eventually you’re going to break and
nothing good will come out of that.
Know Yourself
I’m about to let you in on a little secret. Women are insecure. I just dropped a bomb on yall. Now let me let
you in on another secret. Dudes already
know and for the most part, we deal with it.
So if we know then what’s so hard about you knowing it? Women care more about what other people think
than their man and that’s a problem.
Stop trying to live how these people think you should live. Be you!!!!
When a dude decided to pursue a relationship with you, he liked you for
you. Be glad about that. The only changing you should be doing is for
the better. What people think will never
enhance your relationship. Don’t let their
flawed perception ruin your happy reality.
And another thing, dudes don’t like indecisive girls just like girls don’t
like indecisive dudes. It gets
irritating being around a girl who doesn't know who she is or what she is. And I’m sure it’s the same way for
girls. Just be you and focus on getting
better. You don’t have to complain about
it. Just do it.
Avoid Asking Questions You’re Scared To Know The Answer To
Ladies, if you alter anything on your body whether it be
your hair, piercings, new outfit or etc.
If the dude doesn't acknowledge it when he first sees it then he either doesn't like it or it’s irrelevant to him.
Save yourself the heartbreak in asking him if he likes it or not. By asking him that, you’re setting yourself
up to get lied to. And if he doesn't lie
to you, you’re not going to like the answer.
Honestly, a real man doesn't like to hurt his girl, so don’t make
him. Take the clues that he presents to
you and keep moving. Your relationship
is going to have problems regardless.
Little petty stuff like how your hair looks or is this cute is not worth
an argument. Trust me. A dude is going to tell you that he likes
something about you. It’s in his
nature. Just be cool and if you have to
take the L, then do it. We’re not going
to like everything you put on so just accept it. We’re not trying to be mean. We’re just different people with different
preferences. It doesn't change the fact
that we like you. And don’t let your insecurities
about petty stuff make you think that you’re not compatible with the dude. That’s not a valid reason to break up with
anyone. You have to be a pretty sad
person to break up just because a person doesn't like one thing about you.
Give Your Man A Chance
Ladies, the last thing a dude wants from his lady is a
girl who doesn't trust him or believe in him.
I know women have a certain vision for their man and they believe that
what they envision is greater than what the man envisions for himself. But you have to realize something, a vision
can only be reality when the person actually believes the vision and acts on
it. If the dude doesn't see himself in
the parameters of your vision then your vision is not going to work for
him. He has to believe in the vision and
if he doesn't then it’s a lost cause.
Support your man. There are
certain things that he is passionate about and you should back him. Now if it’s something illegal then you shouldn't encourage him in it. But if it’s
reasonable and legal, then at least have his back in it. If it’s not meant for him then he will
fail. But at least he will know that his
girl had his back and that’s what really matters to him. And give your man the benefit of the
doubt. Too many girls let their past
trifling boyfriend determine how they treat their new guy. Like I said previously, all dudes are not the
same. So you shouldn't assume the next
dude is just as trifling and the last dude.
You’re robbing yourself of your own happiness. Why hurt yourself? Let your current dude prove he trifling
before you start to treat him like he trifling.
You’re not protecting yourself from hurt because you’re going to be hurt
anyway, if he’s trifling. Give your man
a chance to be a good one and live with the consequences because you’re going
to end up doing it anyway. And don’t
confuse this with settling because it’s nothing like it. It’s called giving the dude a fair shot. Women always want a dude to accept them for
their “Flaws and All”. Well do it for
your man and he will accept you too.