Look Here Trick: I Just Want You To Be Happy (Even If It's Not With Me)

I figured I'd try something new just to express myself in another way. I could write a long narrative of how I've been feeling for the last few months but I decided this would be the best way. Enjoy!!!!

They say good comes to those who wait.

But what if I've waited a whole lifetime for someone who couldn't relate.

My jealous tendacies are to hide my insecurities,

Because I can't picture a you without me.

And everybody around can't see,

The smile on my face and in my heart when you speak.

But sadly in reality that's just a cheap fantansy.

For I see in you, what you Cannot see in me.

And I have to respect that.

Opposite people don't always attract.

But how shallow of me to go on the attack.

When you were the specimen I felt that I lacked.

But I remember why I talked to you in the first place.

You were down and out and in a broken state.

It was I who saw that frown and wanted it erased.

And so began my current chase.

Although it appears to be over now.

You moving on is something I have to allow.

But the thing that inspires me the most is your smile.

And how it's like the laughter from the joy of a child.

So I begin this intervention.

Maybe you being happy is what I'm missing.

And if it's you talking your problems out while I just sit there and listen.

It's cool because I'm not trippin'.

In essence, just knowing you has been blessing.

Even if speaking to you only occurs while you are stressing.

I guess that's just a lesson that I have to learn.

And these ill feelings toward you I have to spurn.

As long as you are content with your life, it's cool to see,

How happy you are, even if it's without me.

LOOK HERE TRICK: IT’S TIME TO LEAVE!!!!

Hello everyone!!! I'm back with this special blog. I haven't done this in like a year. PLEASE DON'T KILL ME!!!! First things First. FOLLOW ME ON TWITTER. (www.twitter.com/clemred21) That's like a blog in itself because I snap on different topics daily. Support your boy!!! Okay now do the topic. I will be asking a question and kind of answering it in the same blog. So you will be entertained.

I’ve noticed a lot of things in my 21 years of living. People will stay in a bad situation, no matter what, if they become attached to any element of that condition. It doesn’t take much to get attached. If you got a bad job, the pay is what makes you stay because you have become attached to making a certain amount of money. Well this statement is true concerning RELATIONSHIPS. Human Beings are known to stay in bad relationships because of attachment. Or in other words, people in relationships get hooked into bad predicaments because of the thought of self perceived LOVE. I call it SELF PERCEIVED LOVE because normally LOVE in a bad situation is not really LOVE. It’s just a feeling at a moment in time and nothing true.

This is really evident with GIRLS. It is known that girls are EMOTIONAL creatures. Every decision they make is based on feelings and sentiment. So because they are such an emotional bunch, they are easily fooled into bad relationships. Every person has a need to be LOVED. But every person has a level of tolerance for what they are willing to sacrifice for LOVE. Well most females have a HIGH TOLERANCE LEVEL when they are looking for LOVE and will put up with a lot of mess to keep it. But can we really call what they put up with LOVE???? I beg to differ. I personally think they put up with a lot of mess because they are not really sure what LOVE is. And once they get a hold of something that is thought to be LOVE, they attempt to hold on to it without truly analyzing whether it is LOVE or not.

I’ve seen girls get with a dude who everyone knows is cheating on them and they always make an excuse to stay with that person. Some girls have even walked in on their man while he was in the act of cheating and still forgave him. And what for??? So what you have good sex. So what if he makes you feel good for moments at a time. SO WHAT if he is ALL you think you can get. It makes NO difference if he treats you like a prop and not the human being that you are.

Is a MAN worth it when he’s more concerned with his status rather than your feelings? Is it worth it to hear all the whispers of the people saying that your boyfriend is cheating on you with another girl? If it is then there has to be some kind of self evaluation going on in your life. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is let go of something that is thought to be special even when it’s the right thing to do. But this is life and it is filled with tough decisions that you have to make them whether you want to or not.

In all honesty, if a man is treating his girl with total disrespect and doesn’t honor the relationship, then it’s time to let that person go. By staying in that predicament, it makes you look real needy and shows how reliant you are of other people. I understand that you invested a lot of time into making your relationship work, but to everything there is a season and your season has run its course. It will be hard to let that person go, but it’s even harder if you continue to live in the lie that you are stuck in. MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE.

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LOOK HERE TRICK: 5 Types of Guys 2 Beware Of!!!!

Most of the people who actually read my blog know that I’m not one to hold back in my writing. When I see an issue that urks me, I normally go in with all intent of getting my point of view out. However, I have noticed that I have got on the women a little too much without giving equal attention to the men. So, I decided that it was time to help the women instead of chastising them all the time. I have said plenty of times that the women don’t know what a GOOD MAN is, so I have made it my duty to devise a list of the MAIN TYPES of GUYS that women shouldn’t date. There are more types that should be on this list, but these are the main types that cause discomfort to the FEMALE gender. {Caution: If you think I’m talking about you, then you must be admitting to yourself what you really are!!!!}

5. The Clown

I can already hear it now. Many of you are asking what is THE CLOWN. Well, THE CLOWN is the dude that does anything for a laugh. He has no goal in life. Basically, his life is your entertainment. At first glance, most women don’t view THE CLOWN as boyfriend material. But once THE CLOWN starts working his magic, women are reeled in. Most women like to laugh and that falls right into his plans. You see THE CLOWN’S main intention, just like the rest on this list, is to get in between your legs. He just goes about it in a unique way. Some CLOWNS have problems with narcotics and the bottle. Those things tend to alter his mood from time to time and make him over the edge sometimes. You would be surprised at how many girls THE CLOWN has. A lot of women want to have fun and that is what THE CLOWN provides; A brief moment of FUN. But it doesn’t last forever and THE CLOWN eventually moves on to the next girl.

4. The “Wanna Be” Thug

THE WANNA BE THUG is just that, a WANNA BE THUG!!!! This dude walks, talks, dresses, and acts like a REAL THUG. But the problem is that this dude has NEVER done anything in life THUG WORTHY!!! He knows every THUG song and he lives by what he hears on a CD. One of his biggest attributes it that he talks A LOT of noise. He is that dude that always talks about fighting, but no one has actually seen him in a real fight!!! This dude gets girls off of strictly reputation. A lot of girls get sucked into thinking he is a thug, even though he is not. Some girls even recognize that he his NOT a thug and still decide to give him a try. But it really doesn’t matter to THE WANNE BE THUG because the only thing he cares about is himself. He will continue to be that dude claiming to have MORE WHORES THAN YOU!!!!

3. The Cocky Athlete

THE COCKY ATHLETE is a unique individual. He is supremely confident because he has to be that way. His respective sport requires him to be confident in his abilities. But the problem is that he doesn’t know how TURN HIS SWAG OFF!!! THE COCKY ATHLETE only talks to certain females because he feels that he is of a higher echelon than others. You would think that this attitude would detract girls from wanting to be with him, but the opposite actually happens. More girls want to be with him because they figure he’s a hard catch. Everyone loves a challenge. But just like when he dominates his opposition in his respective sport, he dominates the relationship. It’s always going to be about him, whether you like it or not. THE COCKY ATHLETE, also, does have A LOT of options out there in the marketplace. So if the female is not living up to his expectations, then he will go looking elsewhere.

2. The Real Thug

It has been said that most girls tend to gravitate to the BAD BOYS. Well we all know that the ultimate “Bad Boy” is THE REAL THUG. This dude is always in the streets because that is all he knows. His life is all about “Trap or Die!!!” But don’t get me wrong, he is still able to show his softer side. I guess this is what attracts most females. The one thing you don’t have to worry about is protection with this guy. If you are having a problem, this guy will handle that real quickly in a violent manner. But the things that make him good also make him bad. Due to his violent nature, he is more likely to hit the female that he is with. You see, he has an uncontrollable rage and that can become scary in different situations. Before the girl knows it, she could end up dead messing with this dude. THE REAL THUG is also more likely to go to jail because of some the illegal activities he takes part in. That means that whoever is his girlfriend will have to wait on him to come out of jail and stay faithful for that time. Even if THE REAL THUG is in jail, he expects his lady to stay faithful to him. He is a controlling figure and everything must go his way or he will handle it.

1. The “Pretty” Boy

Now I know many of you are puzzled as to why I have THE PRETTY BOY number 1 on this list. Well it’s real simple. This dude can affect FEMALES in ways that NONE of these other guys can. Instead of messing with you physically, he works on you mentally and emotionally. This is the type of dude that most girls fall in love with, and become emotionally distraught when the relationship is over. The next thing you know, the girl is crying all the time because she feels that HER LIFE, HER LOVE, And HER ALL is gone. Meanwhile, this dude is already on the next chick, playing her like a fool. No one expects this guy to be the CHEATING type and that’s what he wants you to think. You see, this dude is the master manipulator. He knows what girls want to hear and he tells them that. He is great at telling lies and knows how to make them sound believable. He tends to LIE FOR NO REASON because that his apart of his nature. THE PRETTY BOY looks like everything a girl wants in a man. He dresses the part, talks the part, and walks the part. The problem is, though, that he CAN’T say NO to females. It’s nothing to him to have 6 or 7 girls at the same time. Even if he has the perfect girl next to him, he will always be in communication with another female. He ALWAYS has options. Matter of fact, THE REAL THUG is more likely to be faithful than THE PRETTY BOY.

Another reason why he is so dangerous is that he has the ability to make some girls become LESBIANS. Think about it. Some girls view THE PRETTY BOY as the perfect man. They figure if anybody is going to treat them right, it will be him. So they invest so much time into the relationship because they want to make sure it goes right. But then they find out he is cheating and they become emotional. After all that invested time they start to think that maybe ALL DUDES ARE DOGS. So they go after the next best thing and that’s another girl. Since men can’t treat her right, surely another female will treat her right. So now you see why this dude is probably THE MOST DANGEROUS MAN to date!!!!

If you enjoyed this selection or have anything to say about what I wrote, please feel free to make a comment. Thanks again for reading my blog.

LOOK HERE TRICK: I'm Not Perfect

This is probably going to be the realest blog I’ve ever written in my life. I really don’t know what I’m going to say, but I do know that what I’m about to say has a purpose. I don’t think this will be posted on Facebook for the simple fact that I know only a few people will actually read it and the few that comment will give me cliché comments like look to God and there are people who love you. Those are things that I already know, so that won’t provide any help.

It began to rain today and I decided to sit in my garage and just think while the Earth gets purified. I began to do some deep sole searching and look on how my life has been so far. I know that there are few things I can complain about because God has blessed me so much, but there is one thing that tends to stand out every time I think about my life. Have you ever felt like you were just “Generic” or that you really wasn’t a priority in people’s lives. Well that’s how I feel from time to time. Many people may look at me on the outside and say, “How can you feel like you are not a priority when you have a mother and a father that live together, along with a loving sister. Plus you got to college for free and a lot of people know you???”

Well, I know that God and my family loves and care for me, but the problem is that it is hard to believe that anyone else cares. I’m a giving person and everybody knows that. I do all I can to help people out, but it doesn’t seem like I get back what I give out. I don’t ask for anything back when I do good deeds for people, but it would be nice if I could get something in return other than a THANK YOU. And the one thing that is hard for me to come to grips with is that I feel like I’m incapable of being a best friend. The reason why I say this is that if you ask every person I associate who their “BEST FRIEND” is. I can honestly say that NONE of them will say my name. Now that’s not a knock on them because I can’t control that, but can you imagine how that feels. I consider myself that friend EVERYBODY needs but don’t really appreciate to the extent that they appreciate their other friends.

I have all the qualities of a great friend in that I listen, provide help in times of need, and I’m always out there for your best interest. But those same qualities are the reason why I’m not BEST FRIEND material. People take dependable people for granted because they figure that person is always going to be dependable. So, they find people who they can have all out fun with. Now, I know that I don’t do a lot of things that society considers fun like smoke, drink, have pre-marital sex, and party. But, I provide much more than that as a person.

I compare my life to that of Tayshaun Prince. Remember back in 2004 when the Pistons beat the Lakers for the championship. We all know that them winning was a total team effort. But when you think about the pecking order of who was important, the first 4 names that come to your mind are Chauncey Billups, Rasheed Wallace, Richard Hamilton, and Ben Wallace. The person that is easily forgotten is Tayshaun Prince. If you look at Tayshaun, you will find out that he was possibly the most versatile player the player the Pistons had and he was the best perimeter defender they had. He shot the corner 3 when they needed it and he was a quiet leader. But, no matter how many times you think about that team, those first 4 names always come to mind before his. It’s not after you mention his name that you say “Oh, yeah he is a great player.” If you don’t believe me, remember when 4 of the Piston made the All Star team??? Well who was the only one to not make the All Star team from that starting 5??? It was Tayshaun Prince!!!

And that’s how I feel from time to time. No matter how dependable I am, I’m easily forgotten when it comes to the pecking order of people. I’m what you call a BACK BURNER friend. I’m that person who people throw on the back burner because they feel they have better people to be around. Now I know that people don’t intentionally try to do this to me, but that doesn’t take away the hurt feeling I get when I realize that someone forgot that I even existed!!! I guess that’s why it’s hard for me to get personal with the people I meet because I know that they will eventually forget all about me. I’m affected by this to a great degree because it seems that I will grow up alone.

And that’s how I feel from time to time. No matter how dependable I am, I’m easily forgotten when it comes to the pecking order of people. I’m what you call a BACK BURNER friend. I’m that person who people throw on the back burner because they feel they have better people to be around. Now I know that people don’t intentionally try to do this to me, but that doesn’t take away the hurt feeling I get when I realize that someone forgot that I even existed!!! I guess that’s why it’s hard for me to get personal with the people I meet because I know that they will eventually forget all about me. I’m affected by this to a great degree because it seems that I will grow up alone.

I would love to be the first choice of people when they think about a person. But I have had that feeling only a few times in my life. I know I should look to the hills from which cometh my help because all my help comes from the Lord. But, sometimes we as human beings seek Earthly value from people. There was one point in my life when I hated looking at my phone ring because I knew that the only reason people were calling me was because they needed something. There are few times when someone calls me just to check in on me to see how I’m doing. People just normally want something out of me. I’ve learned how deal with it, so it really doesn’t bother me anymore. But what I haven’t gotten used to is all these half-hearted apologies. People seem to think that a simple “I’m Sorry” rectifies what ever they do to me. I’m a forgiving guy, but still words without action make me mad!!! All I ask is that if I don’t lie to you, please don’t lie to me.

Now I don’t know exactly why I’m writing this post, but I do know that it is allowing me to take inventory of my life. I know eventually I will find answers to my questions, but I just wish that day would come sooner. I guess that’s why I listen to so much Charles Hamilton. I can’t directly relate to him, but I can apply some of his problems that he encounters to my life. He was freestyling the other day on Ustream and he said one phrase that caught my ear. He said that he was a NOBODY KNOWN BY EVERYBODY and that is exactly how I feel. I feel that I’m not important enough to be considered a top priority in anyone’s life, but everyone seems to know who I am. I guess I’m just a person that benefits a lot of people so they have to at least keep me apart of their life even though I’m not exactly what they would call a “Best Friend.”

So, I’m sure that this post will be like most of my others. It will be overlooked my many, while others will read parts of it and not all. I’m not really writing this for other people though. I’m writing this for me. I’m trying to let my frustrations out in some way so I won’t have all these feelings bottled up inside of me. I’m destined for greatness; I just hope that I have the right people around me so I can take them along with me.

LOOK HERE TRICK: Nice Guys Do Not Finish Last

We often hear this phrase time and time again. “Nice Guys Finish Last!!!!” It’s embedded in our brains as infants. It’s plastered all over the TV screen. You hardly ever hear stories about how a nice guy did something nice for someone. But I bet you hear about a “Bad Boy” all the time. Even in the movies and the television screen, you normally see some dude get ridiculed by all the girls because he is TOO NICE, and then all of a sudden he changes his persona and stops being nice. Then and only then, the girls start to notice him.

For example, let’s look at the famous show Family Matters. We all know the main characters, so I don’t need to mention that. But let’s take a look at the relationship between Laura and Steve Urkle. Now, let’s forget how annoying Steve was and look at the INNER PERSON. Steve was a nice genuine guy. But do you think Laura would have liked Steve even if he wasn’t annoying. NOOOOOO!!!!!! It wasn’t until Steve made his alter ego, Stefan, when Laura decided she wanted some of Steve. The first version of Stefan was uncaring and unassuming. He really didn’t care about Laura feelings, but she was so in love with him. Now of course some changes had to be made to the Stefan character, but I have to ask this. Steve and Stefan was the same person, but she wanted Stefan. Even though Steve treated Laura better than any man she ever was with, she preferred Stefan. Why??? I tell you why. Because the WORLD wants you to believe that NICE GUYS FINISH LAST!!!! I’ll take it a step further. When Steve finally got with Laura, the show was on the decline and eventually got canceled!!!! My point exactly!!!! LOL

But even with the world telling you that NICE GUYS FINISH LAST, I can tell you from personal experience that that statement is TOTALLY INACCURATE!!! Let’s take ME for example. I have prided myself on being a NICE GUY. If you ask anyone that I knows, they will tell you that I’m a nice guy. Well, since I’m a nice guy, let me tell you the PERKS that come with me being a nice guy. I have a family that loves and supports me in whatever I do. I graduated at the TOP of my CLASS. I was a WELL RESPECTED football player in high school. I was blessed to receive a FULL SCHOLARSHIP to Jackson State University. I serve as President of SIFE (Students In Free Enterprise) On top of that, I get an extra $5,000 every year in school that goes into my pocket. And on top of that, I’m getting another $5,000 added on to the first $5,000 for the upcoming year. So that’s $10,000 I’m getting paid just to go to school this year!!!! And you think I finish LAST…..LOL!!!!! (Not to brag or anything like that) And the bad thing about it is that people around me don’t understand why the LORD keeps blessing me or how I am able to get the things I get.

Some people still give me flack for being a nice person, while others just thinks it’s weird. For example, I went by the library on a Saturday night to access the internet. The internet was out in the dorms and I had just uploaded a Perk-A-Lator video to Facebook and I wanted to track the feedback. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNMnDMcWP1k Well, as I was checking my Facebook account, a female came up and sat beside me. We happen to strike up a conversation about the video. After that, the conversation changed. All of sudden she asked me and I quote, “Why aren’t you going out tonight (to the club)???” I politely told her that that was against my morals. She looked at me with a confused look on her face and proceeded to ask “Why???” I went on to explain to her, but in my mind I was thinking, “Trick I don’t need an explanation….LOL!!!” After I explained my situation, she still looked confused and said she didn’t understand. She was a SIMPLE MINDED GIRL, so I DIDN’T EXPECT her to understand.

But I said that to say this. Being a nice person is not a popular decision and requires you to live a life that’s DIFFERENT from everybody around you. But, even though it seems as if everyone is prospering around you, you normally have a better quality of life, physically, mentally, and spiritually. I would have never gotten all the things I have gotten in life without being a NICE GUY. So don’t think that NICE GUYS are begging for anything, because we are not!!!! So to all those girls who normally put guys down for being TOO NICE, those same guys are probably going to end up with someone BETTER THAN YOU and you are going to envy that girl. PLEASE BELIEVE THAT!!!! And to those guys who constantly down other guys for being NICE, those same guys are probably going to be signing your check or know the person who is signing your check!!!! If you don’t believe me, just keep living your life. LIFE BALANCES ITSELF OUT. THOSE WHO APPEAR TO BE AT THE BOTTOM WILL EVENTUALLY BE ON TOP!!!!!

LOOK HERE TRICK: Jackson State University Sophomore Year Recap